Denying Ourselves Even in Good Things

We should deny ourselves, and bring our wills into subjection, even in good things. It is naturally expected of the Christian, that he will have in hand many little designs and purposes of good in behalf of his neighbor. This is well, but evil will come of it, if, in connection with his good designs, he indulge in strong and precipitate­ desires in bringing them to pass. His will, by being brought into harmony with Providence, must be subjected here as elsewhere.

— from A Treatise on Divine Union (1851) Part 5, Chapter 6.

Denying Ourselves in Small Things

The Savior's directions will be found, on a careful examination, to harmonize in a wonderful manner with the tendencies and operations of the human mind. Under their wonderful simplicity, great insight and true wisdom, (estimating them even on human principles,) will be discovered to be hidden. "Whosoever," the Savior says in Mark 8:34, "will come after me, let him deny himself,  and take up the cross, and follow me."

This command, which of course applies to the will as well as other things, is universal. It implies, if we must deny ourselves in great things, we must deny ourselves also in those which are small. Such are the laws of the human mind, that indulgence in the latter will take away our strength, and deprive us of victory in the former. Deny thyself, therefore, in small things; subject thy will, in matters of minor importance, that thou mayest have power to conquer in things which are more difficult.

— edited and adapted from A Treatise on Divine Union (1851) Part 5, Chapter 5.